Danielle Bettmann

Parenting Coach for Strong-Willed Kids

Become the Calm, Confident Parent your Strong-Willed Child Needs


You're not alone if...

You're walking on eggshells, never sure what's going to set off your child's BIG emotions.

Your days are filled with explosive meltdowns and constant negotiations.

Day after day, you're suffering silently with a short fuse, feeling like you're failing them.

You feel frustrated, confused, exhausted and at your wit's end.



In 3 Months or Less, You Could Have...


  • Peaceful mornings + playful bedtimes more days than not
  • Peace of mind + confidence in a full toolkit of scripts + strategies
  • Self-compassion, no longer letting criticism of your parenting get to¬†you


  • A "new kid" that goes days without a meltdown
  • The support to fully¬†integrate + implement everything you intend to¬†
  • A close¬†relationship with your child for years to come


...the PEACE + JOY¬†you've been missing out on for¬†far too¬†long. ūüôŹ




  • Understand + Work WITH the Way their Child is Wired
  • Master New Ways to Communicate that are both KIND + FIRM
  • Stop Power Struggles + Meltdowns¬†before they Start
  • Completely Transform their Home Alongside their Partner



Watch the 1-hr Masterclass

Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit or Walking on Eggshells 



 ✅ The 3 Types of Parents of a Strong-Willed Child

 ✅ 4 Misconceptions about parenting strong-willed kids that hold you back from the relationship + home you desire

 ✅ The 4 Critical Kind + Firm scripts that transform the way you communicate

 ✅ How to "Catch the Arsonist" so you eliminate behaviors at the root

 ✅ Ways to use an "Incident Report" to gain insight + unlock more patience


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  • Mom of 2, Married¬†for 14+ years
  • Early Childhood Development Expert
  • Certified PreK + Elementary Teacher
  • Positive Discipline-certified Parent Educator
  • Host of the Failing Motherhood Podcast


Inside Wholeheartedly CALM

Jaclyn + Ryan

We started at 10 outbursts a week of at least 30 minutes or more.  Now we have about 3 and they are maybe 10 minutes. Parenting used to feel exhausting, overwhelming, confusing, impossible and so hard.

Now it feels much more fun and rewarding. I feel much more confident, calm, and consistent in knowing what to do and how to handle these big feelings.  I don't take them personally anymore and I can give myself grace.


My child is VERY strong-willed. We had constant power struggles and tantrums.

It's been refreshing to hear other parents' points of view and what they're going through. It made me feel understood and that I wasn't the only one having these issues.

I'm still not as patient as I want to be but I've definitely come a long way. All of it has been a game changer. I see more confidence in my child and a sense of calm.


Life is so much more peaceful!

My daughter's behavior was out of control. I really didn't know how to handle it.

I wanted to figure out a more positive way to help her behavior so she's not mad all the time and we're happier together.

This course has done it!
She doesn't say she's a bad girl anymore.


Make better days inevitable for your family! Schedule your FREE Consultation TODAY.



We were battling my strong-willed daughter all the time, managing meltdowns with a new baby at home.

Now I feel more relaxed. I feel closer to my older daughter again.

My husband and I are learning together and that really helps!


I have so much more confidence as a mom.  I definitely have more patience and understanding and my relationship with my child is stronger. 

He trusts me now.

I trust myself now! I didn't trust myself to know what to do before.

Tiffany + Brian

The most valuable pieces for us have been learning how to change our mindset, understanding the big picture of what is going on with our strong-willed child, learning scripts of what to say, and experiencing validation and brain-storming on the live calls.

When you've tried EVERYTHING else...

...You're ready for a BREAK THROUGH. Inside Wholeheartedly CALM, you'll find strategic tools, individualized feedback, a coach who knows your family, and a small group that GETS IT like no one IRL does.


Does this sound like your child?

#1 - They are SENSITIVE. Easily overtired, overly hangry, in tune with other's moods.

#2 - They generally keep it together at school and let ALL the BIG feels out with you at home.

#3 - They have fits of rage + "Alter Ego" Anger. It's like their eyes glaze over + they turn into someone (or something) else and nothing gets through to them in that state.

#4 - Their anger is expressed physically at an older age than their peers.  Because their emotions are so BIG, they'll kick or hit still quite often (at home most often) at age 4-6.

#5 - They're very smart, verbal and expressive, yet revert to NOISES rather than words when they don't get what they want.

#6 - Vulnerability is painful, so they have a hard time admitting when they're wrong or apologizing.

#7 - EVERYTHING is a BIG deal. No matter how dramatic or irrational it seems, their reactions are genuine.

#8 - They're obsessed with fairness, and can appear ungrateful or egocentric.

#9 - They appear clingy or regress back to toddler behavior, needing help with things you know they can do independently.

#10 - You can't seem to get ahead of the next MELTDOWN. You're walking on eggshells waiting for the next time their unspoken expectations come crashing down to reality.

#11 - They question everything. There's not enough logic, reasoning or explanation that's going to change their mind.  They're still going to find room to negotiate.

#12 - They live life on their own time, taking FOREVER to get their shoes on, buckles on, go through the bedtime routine...

#13 - They get stuck in a gear. It's not fair. They won't move on or get over it. They keep asking or whining or begging.

Sound familiar?


You can't "cure" your child from being wired this way.

You learn to work WITH them, not AGAINST them.

You equip yourself to be able to know exactly how to manage them and help your child thrive with this type of wiring and work to fully embody the identity of a parent who unapologetically parents this child without added shame and guilt and fear and self-doubt.


Does that sound like something you're ready to do?

Start with the FREE Training - Authentic + Unapologetic, then APPLY to work together.

GREAT! It's even more critical to offer structure, new ways to communicate, and for you to have the extra tools and support to control and maintain your own composure through the HIGHS and LOWS of having a child with extra *SPICE*.

Many strong-willed children are deeply sensitive, have unique ways they see the world, sensory preferences, and strengths that will serve them their whole life.

Not every child that's strong-willed is neurodivergent, but many neurodivergent children are also strong-willed.

Whether your child has a diagnosis or not, you will likely find the incredible insight and strategies you're looking for here.

Of course, schedule a consultation to talk through your family's unique dynamics to gather all the info you need to feel confident you've found the right next step for your family.

1. She gets it.

As a parent of a strong-willed child herself, you won't find anyone else more validating or realistic than Danielle.

2. It's personal.

She goes deep with a small group of clients at a time, truly getting to know them and their families over months.

Her time is primarily spent face-to-face with clients rather than creating content for the masses.

3. It's strategic.

Every aspect of the insight + strategies shared speaks specifically to the dynamic and challenges of parenting a strong-willed child that does not respond to traditional or even positive/gentle parenting approaches.

 4. It's for the WHOLE family.

Danielle worked 1:1 with couples, both virtually and in their homes for years prior to creating the Wholehearted Method in 2021. While working with her, BOTH partners find the insight they need to create breakthroughs. 

When they hear the same thing at the same time and speak the same language ...their confidence soars!

Don't worry - single parents, solo parents, and all types of non-traditional families are welcomed with open arms. Plus, caretakers like an extended family member or a nanny are allowed access as well to create understanding and consistency across all environments.


Wholeheartedly CALM is an experience.  It's a safe space to be messy, honest and vulnerable in a way that makes long-term change possible.

What you put into something is what you get out of it. The more questions you're able to ask, the more progress you're able to make.


These are only a few of the many reasons to consider transforming your relationship with your strong-willed child inside Wholeheartedly CALM.

Watch the free training to learn more.



Tuesday, Sept 27th at 1:00 PM CENTRAL

Confidently parent your strong-willed child without caving in or dimming their spark so you can finally break free of power struggles, guilt + self-doubt!