Danielle Bettmann  00:02

Okay, so, Diana + Buck, where were you guys at when you were considering coaching?

Diana  00:10

I think we were in a place of desperation. In many ways, the things that we thought we knew or things we thought were gonna work, were no longer working. There were a lot of crying, a lot of timeouts, a lot of yelling from both parties, you know, both young and old. And frustration on both sides for sure. And not a lot of tools in the toolbox left over. 

Danielle Bettmann  00:38

And we've done six sessions. You've had some support in between and the portal to search through. So where are you at now?

Diana  00:47

Yeah, so we are in a lot better place now. I understand how my son works so much better, and his internal process of things, but also feel more confident in my ability to see him and what he needs and understand what needs to be done in the situation that might be more helpful for kind of longer term growth in a relationship. And we are happy to say that there's a small, small fraction of that. Maybe yelling or frustration and far fewer timeouts and a lot better behavior, a lot more enjoyment and adventure. on everybody's part, so that's been really positive.

Danielle Bettmann  01:37

And what were some of the biggest wins?

Diana  01:41

Well, one of our biggest challenges was getting open to try new things. So he has certainly adopted not only from clothes to food, but things out in his day to day life, that he's not willing to try that were previously a cause of that frustration.

Danielle Bettmann  02:06

And Buckley, what do you feel like was the best part of doing it together, what was like the result of the family business plan process?

Buckley  02:17

So the best part, I think, was actually the stuff that you learn how to communicate with your child, which is also very hand in hand with communicating with people. So communication has gotten a lot better. Owen and I tend to be the same person. So I think, when she learns to understand Owen, she also learns to deal with me a little bit, and vice versa. And I think looking long term on family values is a big thing, right? Because most of the time and today's life, you're on the go, as soon as you wake up, and you never really think about things that you want, two, three years in the future. You're only focused on the here and now, which can be valuable at some times. But without having a long term plan, you're not really going to go anywhere. 

Diana  03:10

I would say the same I absolutely value, the work that we put into the family business plan and the mission statement. And I really feel confident that as partners we are on the same page with where we want our family to be in the years to come. And I don't I know that we had a clear picture of that, because we were in survival mode in the trenches day to day, and it doesn't feel like that right now.

Danielle Bettmann  03:36

Yeah, I know, one of the quotes I wrote down from our plan from like, our first session was “I can't see a path to a good relationship with Owen.”  And how do you feel now?

Buckley  03:49

Was that your quote?

Diana  03:51

Yeah, I'm actually surprised at that I said that. There's these moments of just like, I can enjoy our relationship a lot more because there's so much less feeling like I'm managing behavior. And I can actually sit back and have that one on one time and enjoy it. And sometimes we're just laying in bed right before he falls asleep. And he's talking to me more, telling me about his day or we're having that one on one time that you recommended, and we have some really engaged play and it's it's more value to our relationship for sure.

Danielle Bettmann  04:26

That's so important. So if if someone's watching this and they're really considering coaching, but just not sure if it's for them, or if it's worth the level of investment, what would you say specifically for them to consider?

Buckley  04:40

It’s completely worth the investment. I mean, ongoing learning in any area of life is a good thing, but having direct value with your children is even more beneficial. So, yeah. 

Diana  04:56

I don't know. The track that we were on previously… it's 100% worth it where we're at today.  We have both used coaches in other areas of our life. And it made sense to us to use a coach for parenting because we didn't have the tools. We are so busy, so having that accountability and the structure of like how to work through it. It's, yeah, it's been really helpful.

Danielle Bettmann  05:27

I'm so glad that you guys said yes.

"So my husband & I just graduated from the 4 month coaching program with Danielle and it has been a game-changer for us: for our marriage, for our kids, for our overall household and the patience we have for parenting.  

When I first asked my husband whether he would make this commitment, signing up for this level of investment... I was met with a HECK NO.

He was not even open to the idea.

I decided it was something I needed to do for me personally. 

I set up the discovery call and I told him this is something I'm going to do, you are more than welcome to join me if you'd like to, no pressure if you don't.

We ended up signing up.

It's been the best thing for our family.  We're so grateful for everything we learned during that 4 month time period.

Thank you, Danielle!"